“I was drawn to all the wrong things: I liked to drink, I was lazy, I didn’t have a god, politics, ideas, ideals. I was settled into nothingness; a kind of non-being, and I accepted it. I didn’t make for an interesting person. I didn’t want to be interesting, it was too hard. What I really wanted was only a soft, hazy space to live in, and to be left alone.”—Charles Bukowski (via owlveinss)
Please stop telling me how to be a man. It’s weird. What kind of man goes around telling other guys how to be a man? Oh and you don’t get to tell people how to be a man if you’re under 21. Not because you don’t have something valid to contribute, but because I’m 28 and it’s weird getting ‘man advice’ from people who aren’t finished deciding whether they’re gonna be the next Kurt Vonnegut or Jonas Salk.
Also being a man does not entail manners or specific knowledge. You don’t hold the door open for just women. You should do it for anyone. You chew with your mouth closed because the alternative is just gross and unappetizing. You are polite and treat people with respect because you’re a decent human being. Girls should be polite and gracious as well. And if I’m carrying a big ol’ box I totally appreciate anyone holding the door open for me. You’re a man because you have a penis. End of story. Sure sure, a ‘man’ in the figurative sense is what you’re referring to. But again, most of those points are salient no matter what parts you got under your jeans.
I’m not gonna lie, I’m tired of style advice about as much as man advice. But I feel like style advice is often asked for, which is something different entirely. But the whole “You have to wear it like this or else look like one of ‘those’ guys” mentality is terrible. I feel like the ‘dress and act like a man’ thing verges way too much on elitism. And if you are a so called style expert, no crowd sourcing information on tumblr and twitter. You don’t see the Gilt guys asking where to get a solid pair of affordable chinos, do you? That’s because the minute they start asking, their credibility as experts dissolves. That’s kind of the whole point of being an expert.
The Boat Coat by Gant Rugger is one of our favorite outerwear pieces for the season. But rather than pair it with a predictable biz-caz outfit, we brought in some comfortable earth-tone pieces to soften it. And as always, a few spritzes of CDG cologne is a nice way to…
We’re on the casual tip. This week in New York has seen fairly seasonal mid 50’s temps with a decent chance of rain every day. Perfect weather to break out the unlined boots and our new waxed cotton & leather Vanson jacket. In clockwise order: